
Why Can’t We Be Friends?
If we want to see a less polarized society, both internally and beyond, we must emphatically reject the idea that political alignment is the predominant commonality for friendship.
Roberta Rosenthal Kwall is the Raymond P. Niro Professor at DePaul University College of Law. She is the author of “Polarized: Why American Jews Are Divided and What to do About It” (forthcoming Bloomsbury Press, 2026), “Remix Judaism: Transmitting Tradition in a Diverse World” (Rowman & Littlefield, 2020), “The Myth of the Cultural Jew” (Oxford University Press, 2015) and “The Soul of Creativity” (Stanford University Press, 2010).

If we want to see a less polarized society, both internally and beyond, we must emphatically reject the idea that political alignment is the predominant commonality for friendship.

The festival of Shavuot provides a well-placed opportunity to contemplate the choices we make on our 91´«Ă˝ journeys and how they will impact the next generation.

This year, rather than focusing just on the seder, maybe consider how you and your family might incorporate even just one more element of 91´«Ă˝ tradition into your lives during the eight days of the holiday.

Envy is a completely unproductive, and even self-destructive, emotion.

Without Zionism, most religiously liberal American 91´«Ă˝ communities do not have sufficient 91´«Ă˝ content to sustain a thriving, long-term future in this country.

I have a vivid memory of how one home in my middle-class suburban New Jersey hometown was decorated at this time of the year.

The Obergefell litigation and its aftermath is a perfect illustration of how the legal theory of cultural analysis can move us beyond the endless spiral of polarization and strife we now face.

We must contemplate how we can harness the power of our words for good, for making a difference in what has become a path that is already far too dark.

Polarization surrounding Israel is especially intense in the American 91´«Ă˝ community. But loud voices do not equate to a growing majority.

We need our houses of worship to be a refuge from strife and political discord, and not a source of such conflict.